"Desires and emotions as such are involuntary; they are not subject to direct and immediate volitional control; they are the automatic result of subconscious integrations. . . . It is impossible to compute the magnitude of the disaster, the wreckage of human lives, produced by the belief that desires and emotions can be commanded in and out of existence by an act of will."

- Nathanial Branden

Is it better to be loved or wanted? It seems to be such a simple question, but I'm having trouble figuring it out. Does it make sense to give up on someone who loves you because other people make you feel wanted? ... or more importantly, is it ok to not be wanted as long as you're loved? It's something to think about.

They always say you want what you can't have. This may be true, but it doesn't tell you anything about what will happen if you get it. Also, it doesn't tell you anything about what happens when something you have gets taken away and you want it back. I won't even go into wanting things you CAN have.

Do you think shop-lifters ever get buyer's remorse?

My fiance, Melissa, left me two days ago. So the first thing u will want to know is why. I honestly can't tell you. I wasn't given much of a reason myself.

I know in my heart that she is making a mistake. I know if she looks within herself hard enough, she knows it too. She knows she fell in love with me for a reason - and I am still that same guy. If she were to meet me today for the first time, I know she would fall for me all over again. I'm not some fantasy guy with all the right words seducing her from a thousand miles away. It's senseless for me to even try to compete with that guy. I'm the guy that has proven his love for her time and time again over the past three years. I'm the guy that is always willing to help no matter what. I'm the guy who has always been patient and understanding even in the most difficult of times - even now. I'm the guy who would live in an alley in a cardboard box if it meant she could live in the penthouse. In her mind, I think she realizes all of this, but her heart is a different matter - It's confused. I think it will take time for her heart to realize where she belongs.

I picture her calling me... maybe 3, 6, 8 months from now from an area code I don't recognize. She'll be crying. She'll tell me that she's ready to come home - maybe even want me to come get her. She'll tell me I was right all along. She won't tell me what happened or how or why - but I won't care. And I'll take her back. Maybe I won't want to at first, but I will. I will because I love her.

I don't mean I love her like you love your parents. I don't mean I love her like I just want her to be happy. I don't mean I love her like I would be sad if something bad happened to her. I don't mean I love her like I wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with her. I don't mean I love her because I think she's pretty or smells nice or is good in bed.

I love her in a way that is all of those things and more... words can't even describe. I know she loves me the same way. She just doesn't know it yet.